You can’t be done with stuck if you
don’t know why you’re stuck.
Learn the 6 big questions that get you to the bottom of any struggle
You’ve got the motivation.
We’ve got the principles and tools you’ve been waiting for.
The Roadmap isn’t a quick fix or another bible study.
It’s a whole new way to think about change and experience the grace of God.
GUIDED
SELF-DISCOVERY
to help you internalize and personalize what you learned - the answers to your issues are inside you, and we’ll help you find them
CONVERSATION
GUIDES
to help you safely share your experience and build trustworthy friendships - and community features for asking questions and sharing insight
ACTION
STEPS
to help you shake up your normal routine and turn your insight into experience
Trying to find help (that actually helps) is exhausting.
Whether it’s a habit you can’t kick, overwhelming anxiety, or a never-ending destructive pattern, everyone’s struggling with something.
And if you’ve been brave enough to ask for help, you may have gotten smacked with…
way-too-general advice
like “just trust God!”
or “have you prayed about it?”
OR…
way-too-specific advice
that’s too complex and kinda condescending.
Well, we found a middle ground that works 🥳
Instead of a unique deep dive into every possible situation or struggle, we created a reusable roadmap that will lead you to the real problem beneath the surface - anytime you need it.
You’ll learn how to answer the 6 key questions that lead to lasting change:
Who is The Roadmap for?
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FRESH START-ERS
are you new to faith or just beginning to wrestle with your demons?
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RESTART-ERS
are you a long-time faithful follower of Jesus who can’t quite seem to shake the same old junk?
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GIVE ME MORE-ERS
are you fired up about the idea of a more intimate and resilient faith, and ready for the next phase of growth?
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HELPERS
are you a pastor or mentor who is helping others change and trying to stay healthy at the same time?
…then this has something for you.
No more white-knuckle perfectionism, empty promises of magical deliverance, or suffering in silence behind a happy church face.
The Roadmap will teach you how to
dig beneath the surface,
figure out what’s broken down there,
and work with God to repair and heal it.
Okay… how can this work with *any* struggle?
The Bible has always said our problems always start in the heart - and modern brain science and recovery principles have helped us see that the Bible was even more right than we knew.
The Roadmap gives you a reusable process for identifying the core heart issues hiding behind the emotions and behaviors that we actually see.
We’ll teach you how to start treating everything as evidence that will lead you to the “bottom of things.”
And you won’t just find those core issues; you’ll begin repairing the damage that’s been done and moving forward courageously alongside friends who are learning how to encourage and empower you.
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Here’s a big-picture overview of The Roadmap:
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Focus // Understanding God’s intended destination for our lives and acknowledging the missing pieces
Key Point // Shalom looks like a life of rich and meaningful complexity in balance - and it’s only possible through relationships with God and others.
Key Learning // Joy and Attachment are neurological necessities that God wired into us. They are the major missing pieces that we need to rebuild to move toward Shalom.
Path to Move Forward // We must honestly assess the state of our lies and begin to rebuild joy and attachment.
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FOCUS // Understanding our behaviors and what they’re trying to tell us
KEY POINT // Our behaviors are the evidence of what we believe we need.
KEY LEARNING // Dopamine gives us insight into what our behaviors are doing FOR us and how our cravings affect us
PATH TO MOVE FORWARD // We must take ownership over our behaviors and honestly investigate them.
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FOCUS // Understanding how our emotions influence our behaviors
KEY POINT // Positive and negative emotions are a gift from God, and they’re usually sending us important messages about what is helping or hurting us.
KEY LEARNING // Emotional Memory systems in the brain attach dangerous memories to relevant negative emotions and unconsciously protect us from them.
PATH TO MOVE FORWARD // We must learn to name and feel our big emotions so we can dig for the dangerous memories attached to them.
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FOCUS // Life has taught us what to believe about ourselves, others, God, and the world
KEY POINT // Words and wounds can corrupt our beliefs, causing an unhealthy relationship with negative emotions and resulting in destructive behaviors.
KEY LEARNING // Beliefs are the foundational, neurological mental maps that we use to approach and perceive the world.
PATH TO MOVE FORWARD // We must identify and challenge our corrupted beliefs so that we can adopt the beliefs that Jesus himself lied with.
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FOCUS // Understanding how to repair the origins of our corrupted beliefs
KEY POINT // The past continues to control us, whether we realize it or not, until we intentionally break its hold.
KEY LEARNING // Grieving, forgiving, and repenting are three ways we can begin repairing the origins of our corrupted beliefs and breaking the hold of the past.
PATH TO MOVE FORWARD // We must confront our dangerous memories and painful pasts and ask God to meet us there with new experiences full of grace and love.
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FOCUS // Understanding how to move forward with ongoing repair work in mind
KEY POINT // After dealing with our past, we need a new plan to deal with our beliefs, emotions, and behaviors as we go.
KEY LEARNING // Our brains continually need new evidence that reinforces true beliefs and combats corruptions.
PATH TO MOVE FORWARD // We must practice courageous vulnerability, disarm our alarms, and metabolize our emotions as we go.
Meet Your Roadmap Guides
Tommy was a pastor for 8 years at Mission Church in Ventura CA, trained relapse prevention coach, and lover of all things sci-fi. He’s a life-long learner who obsesses over making hope more practical and tangible for people who need it.
Lauren is a pastor's kid turned kids pastor, Enneagram 9w8 "aggressive peacemaker," trained relapse prevention coach, and constant home RE-decorator. She’s a wise empath with passion for the lost, broken, and left behind.
“During our time in ministry with some of the best Christian leaders in the country, we experienced something surprising. Somehow, just learning about Jesus and forming some new relationships that focused on him fell short of helping people transform.
We realized that we were missing the practical TOOLS to help people (and ourselves) break free of destructive life patterns and experience the freedom that we were all trying to find in Jesus.
We hit our own season of burnout and got some of the best help we could have asked for. It was the first time we began to see just how much we had left to learn and how much we had to unlearn personally.
We started sharing all the new resources and tools we had found… and knew we had to find MORE ASAP. We found our way to recovery experts and leading neuroscience research. And all along the way, we saw that SO much of what is working in the world is like a modern day translation of what Jesus taught and lived.
The Done with Stuck Roadmap is the tool we were searching everywhere for as pastors, and now are so thrilled to bring to you.
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Here’s what a few past participants wanted to say to anyone considering the Roadmap:
“It would be greatly beneficial for EVERYONE - these life skills are so badly needed in our society. Our marriages, families, AND relationships would look so different if we all knew how to process our traumas, hurts and life challenges daily as we’re hit with them - not years later when more damage has been done.”
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“If you're willing to own to how you view the world, people, your emotions, and situations, are looking to improve upon yourself and your life, have someone to go through this with, and are willing to be honest/vulnerable with one or more other person(s), this is for you.”
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If you’ve got questions of any kind or want to get a better picture of how The Roadmap might help you specifically, shoot us an email.
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Technically, you don’t have to… BUT, we couldn’t recommend it any more if we tried.
No one changes alone - we all need the outside help. But that kind of vulnerability can be uncomfortable - or just plain old frightening. That’s why we have strong guidelines and guardrails for these conversations that will be VERY clear up front. Things like no advising, no interrupting, and only asking clarifying questions of each other. Even just those make it a safer place to just get the stuff that’s bottled up inside OUT.
If you can’t find someone, that’s okay! Get started on your own and try asking just one person along the way, “hey - can I share some of what I’ve been learning along the way?” Anything you can do to make this a more relational experience will be a huge win.
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Absolutely!
It will function a little different than your average group study, though.
First off, it’ll be challenging for large groups - it’s a lot of sharing, and splitting up into either subgroups or by gender would be a great way to make it more accessible.
Second, the content is to be watched on your own, and the self-reflection work is necessary BEFORE your group meeting. At the group meeting you’ll share your reflections with everyone - so you can’t go in unprepared… because you’ll have nothing to share :)
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As pastors ourselves, we built The Roadmap with churches in mind! Instead of writing another book to read or another conference to attend, we wanted to create something that added value to pastors’ and mentors’ lives and amplified their impact unlike anything else that’s out there right now.
Read more about the 3 unique ways you can implement this in your ministry →
It’s time to start healing. This Roadmap can get you there.
★ 3.5 hours of jam-packed content ★
★ self-reflection work for deep personalization ★
★ conversation guides for partners or groups ★
★ ALL future updates to the Roadmap content (Lifetime Access only) ★